SR wrote:farrellgirl99 wrote:SR wrote:farrellgirl99 wrote:mockbee wrote:Adurentibus Spina wrote:
Ironically, her music in its current form portrays her as a "Stupid Hoe".
Not good for feminism. Not good for women. Not good for people.
Unfortunately, 'feminism' today has sometimes turned into a woman's/girl's 'right' to be sexualized.
Not good.
As a man, i don't think you have a right to say what is "good" for feminism. There are different types of feminists and if a woman wants to call herself a bitch or a ho and reclaim it, men have absolutely no right to say that isn't good for that woman. It goes back to slut shaming and other such issues. I am so tired of men trying to say what a woman should act like or identify as. Why can't a woman talk about her sexuality if she wants to or dress "like a slut"? It's her prerogative and none of your business.
I've had this problem lately with lupe fiasco's song "bitch bad" which has the lyrics "bitch bad, woman good, lady better". like he has any fucking right to tell a woman what she should be like and what is better for her.
Fg, may I get your age?
This can't be a good sign
I'm 21
Not at all.
I think that men do have a part in feminism though. After all without us, it would never have been necessary. In general it is an empowering reaction to disproportionate distributions of power, respect, and fair treatment. Anything a woman might do to reverse or slow that seems counter productive. I hope I am seeing feminism incorrectly, but any facimile of old archetypes raised under the banner of feminism seems like a tragic reproduction leading no where. As for us, as with any, area where discrimination exists we simply ( and I mean it's simple) treat women equally, free of personal and societal agendas. In the business and academic circles I have been involved in, there isn't anymore divide.
Although there are still major issues out there (equal pay for example is still tragically not a reality in many places - women get paid .65 cents to a man's dollar on average, and the figures are even less for women of color), I would agree that the inequalities that women face everyday have shifted. And I also agree that the best way to counteract discrimination is to treat everyone equally from the start.
But there are still tons of ways out there that women are oppressed or pigeonholed in to a stereotype or gender role. As we live in a patriarchal society, these things are evident everywhere. I don't have the time right now to go into great detail, but I feel there is so much left to fight. And as I alluded to earlier, there is no right way to be a feminist, and of course that includes men who are feminists as well. I used to believe in a more strict, traditional mindset where I thought being a feminist meant "respecting my body" by not pandering to men and not being a "slut" and refusing to wear heels (this is just one example, of course). Then I realized after reading a lot of great things, that my idea of feminism was just as good as the girl who likes to wears heels and sleep around's idea of feminism. So if a girl wants to dress up like a "whore" and say the word cunt a lot and act vulgar, than good for her. Not my place to judge, and certainly not another man's place to judge.
So I personally dont think its about rehashing old archetypes (not even sure what exactly you mean by that anyway). I think it's about crushing patriarchal ideals and reclaiming them. I proudly call myself a bitch all the time. I say fuck you to guys on the street who cat call me (I could rant about that for days and days). I am not "lady like". And some guys probably find that unattractive or backwards or whatever but I don't give two shits. I think it's fair to say that women are judged more critically than men for how they act, especially sexually, and thats one of the reasons why I'll keep fighting for a more equal playing field.
Not even sure if this makes sense, but unfortunately dont have the time to articulate a better response.