perkana wrote:Essence_Smith wrote:
I am curious to know and you don't have to answer...under what circumstances would a gentleman who you don't know be able to approach you?
I'm with farrellgirl on this, it's not ok to just say stupid stuff like 'smile'. I hate that shit too. Guys just have to be nice, I've talked to people on public transportation or bars and have had really nice, funny, interesting or just weird conversations. Just don't be a tool and say 'smile' to someone you don't know.
As a barman for many years, I heard this and it always infuriated me. I've never understood why my lack of smiling entitled them to essentially tell me what to do, or appraise my expression and offer their opinion on it, without any idea of what I was feeling at said time. Also, I'm just adverse to the pricks who think we should all walk around with feigned smiles and unwavering positivity. But I'm a man, and I was told this by both genders, so I'm not seeing why this is the go-to case for feminism? All too often there's a tendency within feminism to take societal issues, and diagnose them as a gender issue - default to binary (woman experienced this from a man = feminism needed), and it's not helpful to say the least.
As for the generational gap, I'm a millenial and I must admit, popular feminist discourse on twitter and tumblr often leaves me cold, to the point where I've started to reappraise whether I want to continue associating myself with it. Not denying feminists have plenty to be angry about in modern society, but the stock phrases that often sound like gendered slurs (#notallmen #mansplaining #checkyourprivelege
) highlight for me a movement that is comfortable propogating harmful prejudices about men and far too antagonistic to what, in a less hostile environment, would be their allies.
I must admit, I've always seen things through a class lense, and am convinced that's the best way to organise for equality, so I've never been that enamoured with identity politics anyway, but I'd naturally assumed feminists would easily fall within that grouping and swell the ranks. However the way things seem to be going, such a coalition would never get off the ground.
However, what little I seen of this speech, Emma seem to be leading with the right approach.